How Sensitive People Can Stop Taking Things So Personally in Their Relationships
“The truth is that the way other people see us isn’t about us—it’s about them and their own struggles, insecurities, and limitations. You don’t have to allow their judgment to become your truth.”...
View ArticleWhen You’re Terrified of Conflict: Why True Intimacy Means Speaking Up
“Conflict avoidance is not the hallmark of a good relationship. On the contrary, it is a symptom of serious problems and of poor communication.” ~Harriet B. Braiker I walk on eggshells in my...
View ArticleHow to Overcome Relationship Conflict with the Internalized Other Practice
“You can only understand people if you feel them in yourself.” ~John Steinbeck In the early stages of my relationships, I spent a lot of time trying to figure out what the other person was thinking....
View ArticleHow to Transform Your Relationship by Feeling Your Feelings
It was late at night, and my husband and I were having an argument about the same subject we’d been arguing about for two decades—cooking and cleaning. The argument seemed to come out of nowhere. We...
View Article3 Important Things to Remember When People Are Mean
“Be kind. Be thoughtful. Be genuine. But most of all, be thankful.” ~Unknown Nobody is spared from being on the receiving end of a mean comment at some point or another. And it’s been said time and...
View ArticleHow to Prevent Your Ego from Running Your Life
“The ego is not master in its own house.” ~Sigmund Freud What does that mean? If the ego is not in charge, who is? Before diving deeper, let me tell you this story. That Little Voice Again My jaw...
View ArticleShare Your Truth: 4 Reasons to Stand Up for Yourself
“If you want to live an authentic, meaningful life, you need to master the art of disappointing and upsetting others, hurting feelings, and living with the reality that some people just won’t like...
View ArticleEasily Annoyed by Your Partner? A Relationship-Saving Approach
“You are not your feelings. You just experience them. Anger, sadness, hate, depression, fear. This is the rain you walk in. But you don’t become the rain. You know the rain will pass. You walk on. And...
View ArticleIt Takes Two, but a Better Relationship Starts Right Now with You
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” ~Maria Robinson It can be tempting to think you need a new partner to create a better relationship,...
View ArticleI Thought I Was Protecting My Peace, But I Was Just Avoiding Conflict
“Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky, but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable.” ~Brené Brown If the title of this...
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